Helen (COSTELLO) Sharp

Mrs Helen Sharp (my mum) died at the age of 45 with the deadly illness that we know as breast cancer. She died on tues the 19th of September 1995.
My mum as i remember was manageress in a pub in Glasgow city centre called "THE RED LION" on west nile street (i think), she work there for many years with her close friend celia. Then when she left the she worked in a care home in Mansionhouse road just before Shawlands.
We lived in DOWNCRAIG ROAD IN CASTLEMILK , up until the late 80's..1989 i think it was , and the we moved down to GLENACRE DRIVE (also in Castlemilk ) .
She had 3 sisters , Agnes , Grace and Janette . And 4 brothers , John , Peter , William and George.
Also had 3 children Jane , Robert and Janette. 2 granddaughters Shanice and Kirsty ( both 16 now ) before passing . She would now have had a grandson Cameron (heartbreakingly also passed away) born on Nov 2002 and another granddaughter Kyla born on April 2004 , she is now 4 years old.
When we lived in downcraig my mum had made some very good friends , there was Mr & Mrs Laverty , ie (Celia n Archie) , they were her closest friends and lived next close to us .....i know my mum had great times living there , i know because i remember all the good times and parties too...

My mum was a very down to earth , straight to the point woman and wouldn't take any crap off nobody.
She was very attractive and would always take pride in the way she looked . She would never leave the house with out her make up on and her hair always had to be perfect.(even all through her illness ).
SHE WOULD NEVER GET A BUS ANYWERE IT WAS ALWAYS A TAXI OR MY DAD HAD TO TAKE HER.
SHE LOVED GOING AWAY FOR DAYS.MOSTLY EVERY SUNDAY . MY MUM ,DAD , AUNTY JANETTE N UNCLE RICKY AND UNCLE GEORGE WOULD ALL JUMP IN THE MINI BUS THAT MY DAD HAD AND JUST TAKE OFF , SOMETIMES SHANICE AND KIRSTY WOULD GO TOO.BUT IT WAS MOSTLY SATURDAYS THAT SHE TOOK THEM OUT WITH HER.

Although my mum knew she had cancer and it was a possibility that she was going die , she tried her very best to not show that she was scared or that she was hurting , she was a very strong person to have all that to coape with , and i can say , i am very proud to say she was my mum and one of the bravest people i was priviliged to know.
I miss her more and more everyday and wish that she could've met her other granddaughter .
I think all the time "why"? why did she have to be taken so young ? but i quess that is a question that will never be answered.
MUM....
NOW BIG ARCHIE (your buddy) IS UP IN THE STARS WITH YOU..SHOW HIM THE GUIDING LIGHT TO GOOD OLD DAYS AND TIMES.XOXO

MR L , ALL YOU PAIN HAS NOW GONE , BUT THE MEMORY OF YOU WILL ALWAYS LIVE ON..NIGHT NIGHT BIG ARCHIE...X
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I JUST WANT TO SAY
MUM YOU ARE MY HERO ,
IF THERE WAS EVER ANYONE I COULD BE , IT WOULD BE YOU.
YOU WERE ALWAYS THERE FOR ME , YOU SHOWED LOVE FOR ME ,
YES OK , THERE WERE TIMES THAT WE SHOUTED AT EACH OTHER ,
YES THERE WERE TIMES WE HAD FUN TOGETHER,
BUT I MUST SAY " ALL THE TIME WE HAD RESPECT AND LOVE FOR EACH OTHER".
CAN I ALSO SAY " I AM SO VERY SORRY FOR ALL THE TIMES I WAS SELFISH AND SAID SOME HURTFUL THINGS , BUT YOU KNOW MUM , WE WERE ALL HURTING TOO , WE , " I" DIDNT WANT TO LOSE MY MUM , I , WE DIDNT WANT OUR MUM TO DIE . I DIDN'T WANT TO FACE UP TO THE 'FACT' THAT MY MUM WAS DYING AND WOULDN'T BE THERE FOR ME , I DIDN'T WANT TO HAVE TO EXPLAIN TO (at the time ) YOUR 3 YEAR OLD GRAND DAUGHTER THAT HER GRAN WAS GOING TO BE AN ANGEL IN HEAVEN AND SHE WOULD NEVER SEE YOU AGAIN , YOU KNOW SHE LOVED YOU SO MUCH . IT WAS ALWAYS "MY GWAN , MY GWAN , MY GWAN . GWAN THIS MY GWAN THAT , SHE DOTTED ON YOU. YOU WERE AN AMAZING GRAN .
YOU WERE JUST AN AMAZING WOMAN.

MUM YOU WILL BE FOREVER IN MY HEART , MY THOUGHTS AND MY MEMORIES.
LIFE WITHOUT YOU IS HARD TO DEAL WITH , BUT AS THE SAYING SAYS
" LIFE HAS TO GO ON ".
I MISS AND LOVE YOU VERY MUCH MUM.PEACE BE WITH YOU ALWAYS.

JANETTE.XOXOX